RECLAIMING YOUR INNOCENCE
Your Life... Reimagined
This article is about reclaiming your innocence and it's critical to living the life you were meant to live.
I'm usually not a fan of dwelling on the past, but for the next 5 minutes as you read this article, I'd like us to go back far enough in ours, so that we can not only move forward, but take our lives to the next level. You ready!?
If you've ever gone roller skating, you've likely seen them and you either look on in admiration or roll your eyes. I'm talking about those skaters who are just ridiculously fast and so good that they look like art in motion. Well, I was one of those people. Okay, just kidding, but I was kinda close! Skating for me was like breathing and it felt so good to feel the breeze as I coolly glided to 80's music on weekends. It felt like home.
As an adult, I continued the hobby and one night decided to really show off what I could do. I made a fast turn and flashed a prideful smile. Then, a child rolled out in front of me, clearly not seeing me coming. I tried to my best to stop in time;but ultimately, we collided. The crash was bad enough that years later, dentists were still trying to solve my issue. And after that day, I never got on skates again.
Your turn. What was your moment? An event that completely changed how you approached the future. The time when you tried something new, and faced with failure decided never to try that again. Or perhaps you raised your hand, felt ridiculed, and decided you'd stop speaking up? Have you struggled with relationships and concluded maybe they just aren't for you? Where did you lose your innocence? Once you have it in your mind, keep reading.
I started this website because I wanted to empower others to take calculated risks, knowing that on the other side is amazing reward! Ghosts from the past don't have to haunt us anymore. What if you decided right now that you will no longer allow one moment of your life to have power over your present or your future? You may have been knocked down, but you're not out. Just because one project failed doesn't mean the next one will. Just because you were once ridiculed for speaking up, doesn't mean you don't have something to say.
Now this doesn't mean that you try again the exact same way. Usually there's something to be learned. Take the lesson, rework it and try again. I learned from the skating incident that I was going too fast for conditions. The rink was too crowded. In some cases, you may have experienced something that made you a victim and your only lesson is that life can be painful. But I promise, you can have better days ahead, especially if you have the courage to look forward with hope.
Your Action Plan
So how do we reclaim our innocence? The state of mind when everything feels possible and we dare to dream big. We aren't weighed down by the knowledge of failure. What's that to the innocent?
This is the rare occasion I will ask you act like a child. If you were fortunate enough to have a reasonably normal childhood, remember what that felt like? You jumped off things, ran to new places, experimented. You were innocent, unaware of the potential consequences. And as a result, you probably had a lot of fun to go with your bruises. If you did have a troubled childhood, perhaps think of a carefree moment?
Children, even after being told no, will often keep asking and pressing. No means nothing to the persistent child. And once they do face disappointment, they get back up, reasoning that most of the time they can get what they want.
Capturing that child-like wonder and carrying it with us into now, can be challenging.; but do it anyway! I'm happy to report that 15 years after my skating accident, I finally laced up again. I was afraid I would crash, but I didn't; and you know what? Facing that fear or that thing from the past gave me more confidence in the present. No longer would a 2 minute incident affect the rest of my life. It felt great to reclaim my hobby and the innocence that surrounded it.
Back to you. What will you do next? What will you try now, that you've been afraid to do because of one moment?
Are you ready to take some more chances? If so, please share with me or someone close.
Here are a few guidelines to help you on your journey:
- Learn from the past. Don't lose the lesson in whatever didn't go as expected and make the necessary changes going forward.
- Visualize. If your endeavor is something that involves practice, I'd urge you to try visualization. See yourself doing well! One study involving basketball players showed that those who visualized making free throws improved just as much as those who practiced for an hour everyday!
- Let go. This can be the hardest part, but the most powerful. Once you've learned the lesson, made the adjustments and practiced visualization, being chained to one outcome is stressful. The point... is that you go for it. You miss 100 percent of the shots you don't take in life.
I'm excited to hear what you do next. You can post here, private message me on Facebook or send a tweet!